Don’t worry about me!

I went out tonight to support two friends who got some great creative space together. Fat Emmie would have stayed at home. But today, I felt good and went anyway. I didn’t know who else would be there, but I ended up seeing people I knew, and met some new people, which is great. I’m so glad I put myself out there. What a stark, stark contrast to the deep hole I was in just a couple of weeks ago. Night and day difference. If I could identify the exact reason why I feel better, I would do it all the time. Because tonight? I didn’t feel like I had to hide.

At the party, they had cookies, sandwiches, cupcakes, etc. They also had beer and wine and soda. It was really funny to me that a couple people actually said something about wanting something but not getting it because I was there. Maybe they were just saying that, and that’s totally fine, but I wanted to put this out there because it happens at work ALL THE TIME, while at restaurants, and even at home.

Just a PSA for all of those around me: Don’t apologize for eating in front of me.

Really, I PROMISE! I know I’m really public about my weight loss efforts. It can be a double edged sword. When I go out, I wonder if anyone will notice the loss, or if they have seen my progress pictures in a bra (yikes – I try not to think about this), or if they will judge me if I decide to eat a cupcake (I didn’t). In the end, I just do what I do and you do what you do. We can co-exist in shiny, happy harmony.

So feel free to have your cake (or if we’re at work, it’s usually pizza) and eat it too. I TOTALLY appreciate the sensitivity to the situation, but I’m really not concerned with what you do. There’s nothing offensive about it :)

Does anyone else know what I’m talking about?

http://anewertammy.com Tammy

I’m glad you had a good time tonight and felt comfortable. It’s sounds like a fun thing. It’s cool that you met some new people too.

For over twenty years I have been and am still in hiding. My fat keeps me at home and basically friendless (except for a few long-time friends in other states). I hang out with my sister and my husband. I moved to the Seattle area (just over 300 miles from where I grew up) in 1996 and I haven’t made any friends except for co-workers (which we don’t do anything outside of work). I’m not happy about it and sometime actually get sad. My fat causes me to be a home body and completely shy away from people. Boo. Someday, I hope to change. I wasn’t always like this. It just feels like it.

I know what you’re talking about with people apologizing for eating in front of you. It drives me crazy. Please eat people and do your own thing. I don’t need the spotlight, really.
http://my100poundmeltdown.com/ Melissa Cohoe

I can completely relate to this post! I feel like all eyes are on me at all times and it rather stresses me out!
http://needtogetmeback.blogspot.com/ Need to Get Me Back

I get what you’re saying. I think that would be helpful at the beginning when its so tough, but after awhile it must get annoying. I kind of have the opposite problem with my sister actually; when I’m dieting, it seems like she eats way more. She eats all these fatty things when we’re together and keeps suggesting we order this or make that, and I have to keep saying no. (She’s one of those skinny people who can eat whatever they want and do, lol) It’s tiring.
http://www.watchsarahshrink.com Sarah

Totally understand! I actually find it a bit offensive — like your eating habits in any way influence mine. I feel like there is an undertone of saying “I know you can’t handle pizza or cookies, so we just keep them away from you.” Maybe there is some truth to that since I weight nearly 300 pounds, but I don’t need others to point it out for me. I know. I know every single day. Every. Single. Moment.
http://debbidoesdieting.blogspot.com/ Debbi Does Dinner Healthy

I so know what your talking about! Like someone eating a copcake in front of me would insult me or cause me to cave in and eat 30? I’ve even had people apologize for TALKING about sweets!
Lisa T

Nice post. I was a vegetarian for 20+ years (You can be vegetarian and fat. I was. Ice cream? Is vegetarian and it has a lot of calories, especially when you eat it by the pint…daily.) Anywhoozle, I had similar experiences as you discussed. People would apologize for eating meat around me. But sister? I have always felt the same as you. I’m not concerned about what you choose to put in your mouth and I will be responsible for what I put in mine. Appreciate the thought, but really? Not necessary.
http://stellarfashion.blogspot.com/ Jennifer

I can definitely relate! If I choose not to eat something, that’s my choice. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t eat it too! And if I choose to splurge and have something that’s definitely not “diet friendly,” that’s my choice too. It’s hard for me to have those treats and not feel like someone’s judging because they know I’m trying to lose weight. But that fear that they will judge me often keeps me from having the treat I probably shouldn’t have anyway! It is a double-edged sword.
http://testingtruechange.com David

Good for you for going out! It is always nice to be around friends And yes I absolutely get what you are talking about. If my friends ask me I just tell them not to worry about it and I will eat what I have to eat and they can have whatever they want! It’s all about willpower
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Does anyone else know what I’m talking about?

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