Comments on: Distorted Mirror, Distorted Mind

By: Wise Words of Johnny Depp — Skinny Emmie

Wise Words of Johnny Depp — Skinny Emmie — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 00:57:16 +0000

[...] to call them, idiosyncrasies. But the one I’m thinking about right now is one that I have written about before in a previous post. I was watching Ruby (as you guys know, one of my fave shows after The Biggest Loser and now, [...]

By: krissie

krissie — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 23:37:20 +0000

I have so much trouble with the mirror. I’m not able to see my weight loss progress because the mirror has lied to me for so long. The way I look today is pretty much the way I have ALWAYS viewed myself – even 30 pounds heavier. The camera tells me the truth. Every morning, I take a “today” picture and compare it to the “before” picture I have on my phone. If it weren’t for that, I don’t know how I’d stay motivated.
.-= krissie´s last blog ..they don’t tell me nothing so I find out what I can =-.

By: krissie

krissie — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 23:37:00 +0000

By: Skinny Emmie

Skinny Emmie — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 17:46:27 +0000

I can’t even express how much your comments mean to me. Between the retweets, in-person convos and these comments, I am filled knowing that I am not in this journey alone, and that these alienating feelings can be used to actually bring people together.

Hugs to anyone who shares these mind struggles, and hopefully we can all find relief knowing we’re not alone. (Sounds sooooooo cheesy, but it’s true.)

By: skinnyemmie

skinnyemmie — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 17:46:00 +0000

Hugs to anyone who shares these mind struggles, and hopefully we can all find relief knowing we’re not alone. (Sounds sooooooo cheesy, but it’s true.)

By: RachelLee(bluebelleinbg)

RachelLee(bluebelleinbg) — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 14:04:29 +0000

Oh my, Em, I am again with you on this post. There have been a total of 10 photos of me taken since having my last child, it is like I haven’t existed through these last 18 months. So now I am taking on your post as a challenge, what if I didnt care, what if I ignore the fact that I don’t look the same after so many children in so few years and realize how lucky I am to have them and that every crease, roll, stretch mark, chin, is a testament to the love and work I put into them everyday? Thank you so much for your honesty and your willingness to bare all here. Massive hugs to you!

By: RachelLee(bluebelleinbg)

RachelLee(bluebelleinbg) — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 14:04:00 +0000

By: janis

janis — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 14:02:12 +0000

I have total “reverse body-image”! I know exactly what you’re talking about. I actually talked about it in my first ever blog post and wondered if it was just me. Apparently not!
.-= janis´s last blog ..This, my friends… =-.

By: janis

janis — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 14:02:00 +0000

By: Fatimah

Fatimah — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 13:28:09 +0000

You deserve all the love you give yourself. Thank you for sharing on this subject that effects everyone. In a world where many are concerned with looks and judgment from others, we are, in fact, our harshest critics. What it would feel like not to care at all? i can imagine and I would hope, more freedom then alienation. A lot of times as I sit there fidgeting with this or that (I am constantly adjusting my hijab, for example), I realize that the only one noticing anything is me. most people are dealing with their own insecurities, or just their own busy lives to really stop and think, dang, her hijab is crooked and a big mess! I am excited for you to be on this journey. you are beautiful! .-= Fatimah´s last blog ..carnegie =-.

By: Fatimah

Fatimah — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 13:28:00 +0000

By: thebiggirlblog

thebiggirlblog — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 13:07:01 +0000

Wow, get out of my head! I’ve had this same conversation with myself soo many times before….
.-= thebiggirlblog´s last blog ..Drop it Like its Hot: The First Ten Pounds… are noticed. =-.

By: thebiggirlblog

thebiggirlblog — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 13:07:00 +0000

Wow, get out of my head! I’ve had this same conversation with myself soo many times before….
.-= thebiggirlblog´s last blog ..Drop it Like its Hot: The First Ten Pounds… are noticed. =-.

By: Liz Brooks

Liz Brooks — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 12:47:52 +0000

Heart-shatteringly honest. I love it, thank you for writing this. .-= Liz Brooks´s last blog ..Easy peach tart dessert recipe =-.

By: Liz Brooks

Liz Brooks — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 12:47:00 +0000

Heart-shatteringly honest. I love it, thank you for writing this. .-= Liz Brooks´s last blog ..Easy peach tart dessert recipe =-.

By: LizzB

LizzB — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 04:16:49 +0000

We are on the SAME PAGE this weekend. My blog post Friday was about the exact same thing. *big hugs* .-= LizzB´s last blog ..Farewell to Fat Friday! Week 6! =-.

By: LizzB

LizzB — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 04:16:00 +0000

We are on the SAME PAGE this weekend. My blog post Friday was about the exact same thing. *big hugs* .-= LizzB´s last blog ..Farewell to Fat Friday! Week 6! =-.

By: heather

heather — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 02:53:04 +0000

Oh My Gosh, Emily. This is so powerful and so true for so very many of us. It isn’t just a body image issue, it goes all the way to the root of whatever obstacles (constructed by ourselves or others) that are in the way of our happiness.

Over the past two years have been terrible at my house. There have been a lot of factors, and I won’t bore you with all of the details, but it’s been a nightmare. Of course, the result (or possibly the by-product) was that I dyed my hair a color I hated (the whole “natural color” thing — it makes moms happy and makes the people wearing it MISERABLE) and went up two or three clothing sizes. I may have three photographs of myself since 2007. I always take pictures of the dog, or of the sunset, or of the day’s dinner. Anything to keep the focus off me. For the first time in my life, I’ve wanted to be invisible, or behind-the-scenes, or something. It’s a terrible feeling.

Thank you for reminding me that I don’t have to hide.

And I know that your “before” pictures are beautiful.

h
.-= heather´s last blog .. =-.

By: heather

heather — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 02:53:00 +0000

Thank you for reminding me that I don’t have to hide.

And I know that your “before” pictures are beautiful.

h
.-= heather´s last blog .. =-.

By: catrinkas

catrinkas — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 02:21:42 +0000

We all do this. I do want so badly to say something that is insightful, that is encouraging. No one talks about this, not in any real way. Not face-to-face. You are doing a great job. Your blog, your public journal – is such a brave full-frontal. And your approach is so absolutely positive, and future-driven, forward-looking. I don\’t know why we sometimes edit what we see in the mirror positively, and other times abuse ourselves. I don\’t know why I leave the house one way, and feeling good about myself, and inevitably pass a reflection and am appalled. Believe the you that edits for the good – keep on keeping on – and don\’t look at the \”before\” until you are approaching a version of \”after.\” And don\’t forget it\’s the same you wearing that skin. And you are Good.

By: catrinkas

catrinkas — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 02:21:00 +0000

We all do this. I do want so badly to say something that is insightful, that is encouraging. No one talks about this, not in any real way. Not face-to-face. You are doing a great job. Your blog, your public journal – is such a brave full-frontal. And your approach is so absolutely positive, and future-driven, forward-looking. I don’t know why we sometimes edit what we see in the mirror positively, and other times abuse ourselves. I don’t know why I leave the house one way, and feeling good about myself, and inevitably pass a reflection and am appalled. Believe the you that edits for the good – keep on keeping on – and don’t look at the “before” until you are approaching a version of “after.” And don’t forget it’s the same you wearing that skin. And you are Good.